Advice sought for toxic engagement and health struggles

A 54-year-old woman from New York has sought advice regarding her engagement to a man with severe anger issues and alcohol problems. The woman reports that her fiancé has verbally abused her in front of his two daughters, ages 11 and 13. She notes that the lack of discipline in the household and the stress of the relationship have severely impacted her bipolar disorder, as well as her physical health, leading to weight loss and skin issues.

In response, the advice columnist suggested that the woman seek a new therapist and consider attending Al-Anon meetings. The columnist advised that the woman should not feel responsible for the fiancé's children or his personal struggles with anger and alcohol, and encouraged her to prioritize her own well-being and move on from the relationship.