Benny Blanco discusses relationship with Selena Gomez

Music producer Benny Blanco shared details regarding his relationship with his wife, Selena Gomez, during an appearance on ‘The Mel Robbins Podcast’. Blanco revealed that he worked with a therapist to create a checklist of qualities for an ‘ideal partner’ to address frustrations with his previous romantic history.

Key priorities on his list included being ‘age-appropriate’, being a ‘nice person’, and having a positive outlook with a willingness to actively manage personal struggles through methods like therapy or medicine. Blanco also noted that he initially struggled with imposter syndrome, which prevented him from viewing a romantic relationship with Gomez as a possibility. He recounted that Gomez was the one who asked him out on their first date.

The couple, who first met in 2008 and maintained a casual friendship over several years, went public with their relationship in December 2023 and married in California in September 2025.