Manipulative communication patterns and red flag phrases

Certain repetitive phrases in conversation can serve as indicators of manipulative behavior intended to gain control in a relationship. According to information from YourTango, individuals with manipulative tendencies may use specific language to disguise insults as jokes, dismiss the feelings of others, or avoid responsibility for hurtful actions.

Two specific phrases identified include ‘You are too sensitive’ and ‘I am just joking.’ The phrase ‘You are too sensitive’ is often used to shift focus away from a person's harmful behavior and onto the emotional reaction of the listener, potentially causing the victim to doubt their own feelings. Similarly, ‘I am just joking’ can be used as a defense mechanism to deliver insults while avoiding accountability when the recipient expresses offense.